Enjoying Anal Sex For Men & Women

Anal Sex For Women

Anal sex appears to be becoming more popular (or at least more people are willing to talk about it). In the 1990's on 16% of Women said they have tried anal sex, that number is now 40%. There's a lot of uncertainty surrounding anal sex, so we hope to alleviate some concerns you may have. 

Firstly, anal sex is not for everyone. Never feel pressured to try anal if you are not willing to. 

What does it feel like? 
The feedback varies woman-to-woman, generally, Woman indicates some discomfort or pain during their first anal experience, but it usually becomes more pleasurable after you are comfortable with the situation & have relaxed. Orgasm is possible from anal sex & when done well, give a super-intense orgasm. Some Woman reports the orgasm to be better than vaginal sex.   

Getting Started
The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help. Some Woman will clear their anus with an anal douche

Start slowly. You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum, this can be done to yourself, or by your partner. Ensure your or your partner pay attention to other erotic zones—breasts, neck, etc.—to get excited at the same time as you're being stimulated anally. 

It's suggested that you should wait to experiment with anal until just before an orgasm. When you're aroused, the hormonal changes in your body have a palliative effect and help you to relax and experience pleasure more profoundly.

Try solo play first

Your two sphincter muscles are not only essential to anal health but also to pleasure, These ring-like structures control what goes in and out of your butt, so you need to become familiar with their functioning and learn to exercise control over them. When you’re in the shower or touching yourself, try sliding a lubed-up finger inside as gently and slowly as possible, and allow your sphincter muscles to contract and release. This will make you more comfortable—and help you discover what feels best back there.

Double your pleasure
If you have a vagina and a clit, use them. Insert a toy into your vagina during anal in order to press against the 'cul-de-sac' from both sides. Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot. 

Try the lap dance position
The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they're giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control.


Anal Sex For Men

Many men enjoy solo and shared play anal pleasure, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. The anus has a huge amount of nerve endings which are highly receptive to touch, for men and people with prostate, anal exploration can be especially pleasurable.

The prostate, know occasionally as the P-spot, is a gland within the sexual organs of a man or someone with a penis, when stimulated it can provide intense pleasure and even orgasm.


Finding the P-spot

It is an erectile tissue that during arousal will fill with fluid creating a bump in the anal wall similar to the female G-spot. The P-spot will feel different in texture & circular in shape. Typically, the P-spot will be able two knuckles into the anus.


The prostate can be stimulated through external & internal stimulation. To externally stimulate the prostate, massage the area between the balls & anus. External massage will not offer as much pleasure as internal stimulation, but it could be a good & gentle introduction to prostate play. 

Generously lubricate your fingers. Relax your anus & start to massage the entrance to your rectum. As you relax, gently allow your finger inside. As you get around one knuckle in (around 2cm) you’ll reach the internal second anal sphincter. Patiently wait with your finger lightly pressing against the entrance. After a while sphincter will relax and let you in a little deeper. Once your past both sphincters, you'll notice things easy up a little - your ready to explore! 

Your prostate is located about 3 inches (7-8 cm) deep. Finger facing towards your front, search around till you notice different kind of tissue and a little circular bump. The first time you find it you’ll probably jump up with the surprise of intense sensations. 

Stimulating The P-spot
This is easiest to do alone at first. Ensure you are relaxed & have blocked out at least one hour with no commitments or worry about anyone coming in.

Get yourself aroused, touch yourself how you enjoy. Massage your balls, perineum area, slowly stroke your penis till you feel the hot sexual energy rising.

Get into position. There is no specific position for the best prostate stimulation, its worth experimenting to see what you prefer. Try lying on your side & stimulate from behind your back or lie on your back with your legs pulled back, accessing from over the penis. P-spot stimulation can be increased with penis stimulation - lying on your back allows easy access to the penis. 

Everyone likes something different when it comes to their P-spot. Here are a few things to try. 

  • press your finger on top of the P-spot and pull it down in come hither motion
  • try a firm and direct pressure like pressing the doorbell button and releasing
  • move your finger left to right like windshield vipers
  • experiment by adding the second finger in there.
  • angle your butt differently to change the way P-spot is exposed