Firstly, There are many types of strap-ons, for all genders & sexual activities.
Just a few of the main types ;
- Strap On Dildos
- Vibrating Strap Ons
- Hollow Strap Ons
- Anal Strap Ons
- Face Strap Ons
- Dual Penetration Strap Ons
Whether you want to strap on a penis & penetrate your partner of any gender, reverse stereotypical gender roles, add some extra length, or help with erectile issues, strap ons add fun & unique dynamics to the bedroom.
The Basics
Designed to recreate the look & experience of a real penis, the basic strap on is made up of a harness & dildo. The dildo typically has a flared base which fits through the harness O-ring, holding it safely & securely in place against the wearer's pelvis.
Typically harnesses styles:
- Jockstrap. This version looks like a classic jockstrap, with straps around the waist and over each butt cheek.
- Thong. This style looks just like a thong, with a strap around the waist and a strap that goes between the legs and between the butt cheeks.
- Underwear-style. This version typically looks like a pair of underwear or boxers. You can use them for wearing a dildo all day, or during sex.
Whilst harnesses are relatively similar, dildos come in every size, shape, colour & material you could ever need!
How To Buy A Strap On
Buying a strap on is an investment. It'll take both time & money, its important to find one that both partners like & can enjoy. As with anything, you get what you pay for. Most users find that scrimping on their strap on purchase will lead to disappointment & either not using their purchase, or investing in a better, more expensive model. If you don't plan on using the strap on much, then perhaps a cheaper option will be just fine for you. - Take your time & look at all of the options.
Harness Buying Tips
- Make sure the harness is adjustable & make from a comfortable material, usually leather or nylon is good.
- The harness should be well fitted & snug to ensure you have the right amount of control over your dildo.
- Some harnesses can be used with a variety of dildo sizes, while other harnesses can only be used with specific dildo sizes. Make sure you understand which model you’re buying.
- You can get a harness with a bullet vibrator attachment, which delivers vibrations against your clitoris. Since you won’t feel any physical stimulation from using the dildo itself, a vibrator can be a nice addition.
- If you're looking to be penetrated at the same time, there are dual penetration strap-ons available.
Dildo Buying Tips
- If your partner is consistent, consider letting them choose the dildo. After all, they'll be the one getting penetrated with it.
- Make sure its safe. Usually sex toys are made from Silicone, some can be made from porous materials which can release chemicals. If it does not state that its body safe, do not buy it.
Getting Used To Your Strap On
At first, wearing a strap on feels weird. You've got a new appendage that you've never had before, it'll take time to adjust to it.
To adjust, wearing your harness & dildo alone for a while. Wear it around the house, doing day-to-day activities, give yourself some time to acclimatise to it. The more comfortable you are with it, the more comfortable your partner will be & it'll be easier to use.
Try masturbating with your strap-on on, it can be really hot, play with it whilst touching other parts of your body. It certainly helps to develop a connection with it.
Using Your Strap On With A Partner
Once you comfortable, you may feel ready to start using it with your partner.
Start slow & make sure partner gets used to it too. Let your partner see your new toy, wear your harness & dildo as you make out.
It can also be incredibly hot to have your partner play with your new toy, jack off your dildo or give it a blow job, if you’re both comfortable with those activities.
Before using your strap on for penetration, remember one thing... Lubricant! Lots of lubricant. Make sure you're partner tells you if they need more lubricant at any time. If your dildo is make from silicone, you'll have to use water-based lube.
If you've never used a strap on before, the thrusting motions during intercourse wil be very strange. You might not have the muscle ready to thrust like your expecting to, dont worry! It'll come. Just start off slow & stead. Most people comically go over the top & ruin the mood.
Try doggie style, this tends to be easiest for newbies as it doesnt require much hip strength. If your in missionary, try grinding against your partner.
If you’re penetrating a female-bodied person, you may get to play the surprisingly difficult game, “Where’s the Hole?” Before you start feeling like a lost teenager desperately trying to lose their virginity, use your fingers to find the vagina, then guide the dildo there.
Communication is always key when it comes to sex, and strap-on sex is no different. Ask your partner to give you a lot of feedback about what feels good to them. Go nice and slow until you both get the hang of it.
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