Vaginas naturally lubricate on their own, but anus does not, which means you need to prepare a good lube before you dive into any anal play. Whether you're putting toys, fingers, or penises into your anus, you'll always benefit from the texture that the lube creates. Without lubrication, the buttocks can be painful and even cause some bleeding later on due to any anal tears in the sensitive tissue of the anal canal - no fun!! When we're trying to lube up our ass, we want to make sure we're choosing a high-quality, long-lasting lube, Saliva may be good, but it's not a lubricant! Consider licking your lips when they are dry instead of using cocoa butter.
Of course, not all lubricants are the same, so you need to make sure you buy the right type of lubricant. There are three types of lubricants, water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based, and each has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Usually the easiest to find and considered the universal members of the lubricant family can be used safely with all condoms and sex toys, including silicone ones and is good in most sex situations that call for lube. Water-based products are also the easiest to clean up after play, but are not as slippery as silicone or oil-based products. Some people prefer water-based lubricants for sex because they're easier to clean, for the buttocks, we want the lube to stay, so opting for a thicker, water-based lube is a good shout. Water-based lube is great used with silicone toys as it's silicone toy safe and condom safe.
The downside to water-based lube is that is you have sex in the bath or shower, the lube will be washed away before you know it. In general, water based lubes are non-sticky and mirror the vaginas natural lubrication closely. You may need to re-apply water-based lube more often than other lube types, so be sure to check in with your partner.
We love silicone lubes because they give the body a velvety texture, making them perfect for external anal play and genital massage. Silicone lubes are a popular choice for anal lovers because they last a long time.
Unlike water-based lubricants, silicone-based lubricants are ideal for showering, swimming, or having sex in the pool. They tend to be much denser and more durable than water-based lubricants. Silicone creates a pleasant sliding sensation, which makes anal sex much more pleasant and safer.
Silicone-based lubricants aren't always suitable for use with condoms because silicone can break down the latex, leading to the risk of rupture, which can transmit STDs. Always check the packaging or product information to see if that particular product is compatible with condoms. Silicone lube can also damage silicone sex toys, so if you use silicone lube with a vibrator, butt plug, or anal dildo, make sure the toy is made of glass or metal only.
Why can't i just use spit?
Yes, it's free and always available when the moment strikes ... but it is certainly not an effective lubricant. Not only does it dry out quickly, dries the skin and doesn't form a barrier that protects the anus from potential tears or damage. Also, you should not use petroleum jelly as a lubricant. It was never intended to be used during intercourse, can cause condoms to break, and is not absorbed into the skin.
Luckily, there's an easy way to get started with choosing an anal lube.
If the lubricant is marketed as a "pain reliever", it's best to stay away. What our logic? A lube that makes your butt less sore may seem too good to be true because it might be. You see, pain is your body's way of telling you to slow down. Pain relief lubes with pain relievers or desensitizers won't let you know you're overusing until the lube wears off, which isn't ideal.
We suggests investing in a good lube applicator or syringe. They help you get the lube deeper into the rectum, which is great for making sure you don't only lube the first two inches of the rectum if you're penetrating further and you don't have to worry about getting more lube on your hands or sheets than you really want. Don't be tight (excuse the pun) on the lube. It's better to use more lube than less and keep your derriere safe and comfy.