So you want to be safe and comfortable the first time you have anal sex? Anal sex is fun fo anyone with a butt, regardless of gender identity. Anal sex seems to be a big deal if you haven't done it before. Here's how to prepare for anal sex.
Get educated about anal sex
Don't rush into anal sex if you don't feel ready. One of the most important aspects of enjoying anal sex is to educate yourself about what to expect. Anal sex can be daunting, especially when exposed to the endless misinformation and taboos surrounding the subject. Take the time to research the subject that makes you nervous, be it hygiene, sensations or psychological aspects.
Communication is key - talk to your partner before anal
Consent is the key in this piece, and surprising your partner with a new sexual experience is never a good idea. Make sure that you and your partner discuss anal sex before you try it. This will set your comfort level and take small steps forward.
There is no need to put pressure on yourself or your partner if you are not ready. Knowing what awaits you and feeling comfortable and ready will help you to have a pleasant experience.
Explore your anus alone first
Just as masturbation is important for understanding your vulva or penis and feeling comfortable with different sensations, it is also a great way to prepare for anal sex. Start with anal fingering at your own pace. Use plenty of lubricant and insert your own fingers into the anus so you know how it feels.
The anus does not lubricate itself in the same way as the vagina, so it is important to use lubricants properly. This reduces the risk of pain and injury such as tearing and makes everything feel nice and comfortable. Good water-based lubricant is suitable for anal use and is compatible with condoms and sex toys. Liquid silk lubricant lasts longer and is not sticky.
If you are comfortable with small anal sex toys, this is a great way to prepare yourself for anal alone. Anal beads are a great toy because they are small enough to go at your own pace. Start by inserting a small pearl and then add more when you feel comfortable. If you feel more comfortable with your fingers in your own anus, you can experiment with different sensations.
If you are comfortable with anal beads try a small anal sex toy like a vibrating butt plug. These are ideal for beginners because they are slim and powerful and enjoy vibration settings that you can explore at your own pace. Use a load of lubricant to insert the stopper and adjust the feel.
Keep it clean
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Start off slow
When it is time to have anal sex with a partner, as long as you follow the above steps, you will be well prepared. Partners use their penis, strap-on, or dildo, slowly allowing you have time to adjust to the size and sensation without feeling overwhelmed and put off.
Make sure you listen to and notice non-verbal cues from your partners. Communicate what it feels like and don't forget to check in with each other. When you're on the receiving end, it can help to control the pace by guiding your partner.